Pregnancy Is Not a Crisis: Responsibility Begins with the Choice to Have Sex

Sex Is an Adult Decision

Anytime a man or woman chooses to have sex, they are making an adult decision. One possible outcome of that decision is pregnancy. To call pregnancy a "crisis" or "unplanned" is misleading. Pregnancy is not an accident—it is the natural result of the act of sex itself. Responsibility begins the moment the choice and decision to have sex is made.

Prevention and Responsibility

If someone wants to avoid pregnancy, they must take precautions—whether through protection or abstinence. Women often carry the greater burden because they are the ones targeted and pressured, but they must remember they have a voice. They can say no before, during, and after any situation where they feel pressured. Men, too, must take responsibility. If you are not ready to care for a child and the woman you are with, then you are not ready for sex.

The Role of Parents and Society

Parents and teachers must have honest conversations with young people about sex, responsibility, and prevention.

Parents and caregivers often find conversations about puberty and sex to be a significant source of stress, frequently avoiding them due to fears of awkwardness or the misconception that discussing these topics will encourage early experimentation. Contrary to the idea that these talks were more common in the past, research from The Boys' Institute for Growth indicates that most of today’s parents grew up with little to no dialogue about sex in their own homes, leaving them without a model for how to navigate these discussions. However, experts emphasize that ongoing, age-appropriate conversations do not hasten sexual activity; instead, they help delay it and lead to safer, healthier behaviors.

Rather than relying solely on schools, parents should view themselves as the primary source of trusted information to better prepare young people for the realities of growing up.

If these conversations are often avoided, this silence leaves young people unprepared for the realities of sex and its consequences, which then could lead to tragic decisions such as abortion.

Abortion is not the answer. Responsibility is.

Accountability to God and to Each Other

From a Christian perspective, premarital sex is sin. Sexual immorality goes against God’s design for marriage and family. Scripture teaches that sex belongs within marriage, where commitment and responsibility are established. Within marriage, sex is sanctified, and children are raised in a stable environment. Outside of marriage, selfish desires lead to harm and irresponsibility. (1 Corinthians 6:18, 1 Thessalonians 4:3, Hebrews 13:4, Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6)

Even for those who are not Christians, the principle remains: sex can result in pregnancy. There is nothing unplanned about that. If you choose to have sex, you must be prepared to care for both the child and the partner involved.

Economics and Practical Realities

Sex is not just about passion—it carries economic and social responsibilities. As the saying goes, "Romance without finance is a nuisance." If you cannot support yourself, you have no business creating a child you cannot care for. Both men and women must consider their ability to provide before engaging in sex. Responsibility means planning and being prepared.

Abortion Is Not the Answer

Abortion ends the life of an innocent child. From the moment of conception, that is a person. Pregnancy is a blessing, and children are a blessing. God commanded us to be fruitful and multiply, but He intended this to happen within marriage. Abortion is not a solution—it is a tragedy.

A Call to Responsibility

Sex and pregnancy are serious matters. They should never be treated lightly or dismissed as unplanned. If you are not ready for the responsibilities that come with sex, then abstain. Wait until marriage. That is the responsible and God-honoring choice.

Pregnancy is not a crisis. It is the natural result of a deliberate choice. Responsibility begins with that choice, and accountability follows. May we all strive to make decisions that honor God, protect life, and uphold responsibility.

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Here are some verses from the Holy Scriptures that I hope will inspire and guide us to embrace responsibility, honor God’s design, and cherish the blessing of life.

Biblical Foundations and Verses (NASB)

Responsibility and Consequences of Sex

• "Flee sexual immorality. Every other sin that a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body." — 1 Corinthians 6:18

• " For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality..." — 1 Thessalonians 4:3

• "Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers." — Hebrews 13:4

God’s Design for Marriage and Family

• "For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh." — Genesis 2:24

• And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no person is to separate." — Matthew 19:4-6

• "Behold, children are a gift of the Lord, The fruit of the womb is a reward." — Psalm 127:3

• "For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh." — Ephesians 5:31

Children as Blessings and Joy

• "Whenever a woman is in labor she has pain, because her hour has come; but when she gives birth to the child, she no longer remembers the anguish because of the joy that a child has been born into the world." — John 16:21

• "Grandchildren are a crown to the old, and the glory of sons is their fathers." — Proverbs 17:6

• "Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he grows older he will not abandon it" — Proverbs 22:6

Responsibility to Family and Community

• "Honor your father and your mother, so that your days may be prolonged on the land which the Lord your God gives you." — Exodus 20:12

• "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. ² Honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise), ³ so that it may turn out well for you, and that you may live long on the earth. ⁴ Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord." — Ephesians 6:1-4

• "But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever." — 1 Timothy 5:8